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Created on Oct 21, 2010. Ask Angy is the first undocumented youth advice column. It was born in the New York State Youth Leadership Council because there was no space to ask questions or seek advice. This blog is a space for youth to email their concerns, questions, stories or simply ask for help without being judged. Email them to Angy at Angy@nysylc.org or fill out this form.

This is a space to let it all out! You don’t have to bottle it up inside. Your stories and worries matter! You are not alone. Remember, the insecurities and fears you have, someone else is them having too. Don’t be afraid to speak out.

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  • 4 Things To Do While You Wait For USCIS To Process Your Deferred Action Application


Hello Angy,
I apply for the differed action back on April and I haven’t heard back from them. I don’t know what to do anymore, it’s been over 6 months.
Thank You
Sent my application for Deferred Action in November 2012. Haven’t received a receipt for USCIS or anything and it has been a year already. My lawyer says there is a delay, but can there be a delay on my receipt? Just so I could rest assure that they got my application and they are revising it? I don’t know what to do or where to call. Please help!
Hi Angy,
I sent my DACA application last year September 14, and I took my bio in October. However, the case status has been showing initial review since October. And I didn’t heard anything from them, not even a request for evidence. Is there anything going wrong? All my friends received theirs already. I’m really worried about it.
L.C.
I’m just wondering why the Deferred Action application decision is taking so long? I sent everything January 2013 in February I had my biometrics taken in March I received a letter saying that my case was in progress since then I haven’t received anything. When I check my status online it’s always in the “initial review” it has been a year! I’m just wondering what’s going on!?!?!? I’m worried!?!? It really stresses me out…
Hi Angy!,
I have been in the process for DACA for 5 months now (since fingerprinting, that is) and I’ve not heard anything back from USCIS. A couple of months back, I got a notice of transfer. My case was transferred from the Vermont office to Nebraska, I’m assuming because of a backlog. I’m tired of waiting. I need to work. Is there a date that I should definitely give up on it?
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  • I Have Deferred Action and No Financial Aid


Angy,
I applied for Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals and I got it! I really want to go to college. Is there any kind of help that I can get to pay for college or loans? I live in California. Thank you and I hope to hear from you soon.
Angy
I received my work permit and my social security number. Now I don’t have a high school diploma or GED if I go to a college here in California, will I get financial aid or not?
Hi my name is Yvonne. I qualify for the Deferred Action. I need some help with applying for college. Am I eligible to apply and how do I go about it? I really want to do something else besides work, but also don’t want to be in school for so many years. How do I apply for private scholarships? I really need some advice. Please help. I left an email where you can get back to me with a response. Thanks
Dear Angy,
My senior year has just started and already we are preparing to start college applications. I have dreaded this year because I’m not sure want I can do. Earlier this year my Deferred Action was approved, and I got all my papers and I got my SSN and driving permit. But I don’t know if i can apply for FASFA. On the Hispanic Scholarship Fund, it requires you to be a legal citizen or resident and I’m not sure what I qualify as. I’ve taken many AP classes and kept my GPA at around 3.9. I would feel horrible if i can’t get the aid I need if I don’t get the aid i need to go to college. Help give me some advice!
AM, New York
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  • Deferred Action and Credit Cards Have Me Confused


Angy,
I don’t understand this credit card thing now that I have Deferred Action. How do I apply for one? I need to build my credit. Help!
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  • Depression and Immigration – Tips for Self-Love


Hi Angy,
I hope you are doing well. I’m undocumented but I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it. My family is no support, they act like I can just get up and make myself legal. I’ve told a few people and the friendships ended after that conversation. People act different toward you or stop talking to you. It hurts a lot that you’re going through such a thing and you can’t even express it. Being undocumented has gotten me depressed over the years. It’s to the point where I have panic attacks in public and it’s embarrassing. I avoid hanging out with people because I don’t want it to happen. I’ve been considering getting on xanax or something for anxiety but I’m scared of the side effects it will have on me. Also I’m not working so I don’t have much money to pay for the doctor visits. What do u think I should do? Do you know of any resources low cost or free that provide mental health services?
Thanks
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  • When You Have Your Deferred Action Paperwork But No Money To Apply


Angy,
Hi I’m a senior and I have my application ready but not the money required for the application.
Do you guys have any help for that? Or do you know what I can do?
thanks,
Brenda
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  • Getting Financial Aid With Deferred Action


Hi,
My name is Maria. I recently received DACA and I was trying to enroll in college however I was denied financial aid. I live in Nebraska. I need help. Am I eligible for financial aid? Please help.
Hello,
My name is Jafreisy and I qualified for Deferred Action and received my social security card and work authorization card. I applied for college but they’re not giving me financial aid because I’m not a resident or citizen. I really want to start school but I don’t have money to pay for college. It’s really expensive. What can I do?
Thank you I would really appreciate it.
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  • Deferred Action: How Long Will This Take?

Angy,
I went to get help from some lawyers to fill out my Deferred Action form sometime in August. When I got there, he was making corrections and using whiteout and he didn’t seem so sure of what he was doing. I sent my application on the 28th and I haven’t received anything. No letter or text or email. I went online and people were telling me that my application was either delayed or denied. I’m really scared. I don’t know what to do.
G.V.
Hi Angy,
I sent my application since September 24th and I went to my fingerprints on October 29th. I still have not heard whether I’m approved or not. The website says “initial review”. I know this will take time and all but I’m almost about to reach my 90 days that the USCIS says the process “should” take. I’m just wondering, what can I do? I have a friend who went the same day, same time to the fingerprints as I did and she got her permit exactly a month after. Another who went a week before me and she just got it last Thursday. I don’t know what to do! Lol. I’m so anxious and I try to not think about it but I can’t help it.
Thanks for your time!
Arisandi
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  • Deferred Action: Leaving the Country

Hi Angy,
I have been reading up on this new thing Obama passed and I can’t seem to find anything that says would we be able to travel do you know if we can travel after getting Deferred Action?
Nate
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  • Deferred Action: Attorney Fees Are Too Damn High


Hey Angy,
My friend and I are planning to apply for Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals, she’s planning to use a lawyer to do the whole thing for her, but I can’t afford the lawyer since it would cost about $500. She says her lawyer is asking her to get letters of administration of the various schools she’s attended as proof that she is “useful to this country”. Is that necessary? Is that something I would get denied for? I meet all the other requirements and have no criminal record. I’m just scared that I’ll get denied for not using a lawyer and not getting letters of recommendation.
Thanks,
ZFPop
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  • Deferred Action: DUI and Having Enough Proof

Hello Angy;
I have a problem and maybe you can help me. I’m 25 years old and have a Degree in Mechanical Engineer and I’m pursuing a Master Degree in the same field. I want to apply to for the Deferred Action but if I understand correctly a significant misdemeanor may not let me. Four years ago I was arrested for driving under the influence. I already paid all of the fees (DMV & City fines) and took the DUI classes. I want to apply but I don’t want to waste $500. So my question is, if they find out that I don’t qualify would I get my money back? The law is clear that I won’t qualify but maybe they can overlook my DUI?? Is there any way I will get approved?
Thank you for your help
CM86

Angy,
I been stressing out about this Deferred Action policy. I heard and read about others providing so much evidence about them being here since 2007. My concern is that since graduating in 2007, I worked for two years with my real name. After that, I worked with another name (which is my middle and second last name). Now ever since that, my job provided a debit card to pay, in which I never bothered to start a bank account. Now with this new discretion, I don’t feel that I have enough evidence and it makes me worry if I’m not going to be able to get anything. I really hope that what I have could be enough evidence, because I really want to go to school, and get out of my tough situation with a dysfunctional family. What I have are medical bills for a couple of months in 2009 and 2010 and some acceptance letters from college. Pay stubs from 2008 and taxes from 2007. 2011 and 2012 a rental lease, and some receipts I signed for this year for rent.
Thanks for all the hard work you and everybody else do,
Sergio
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  • Deferred Action: Fake Socials, Income and Petitioning

I am 30 years old, I entered the US when I was 14 yrs old, I have a high school diploma and an associates degree. I am about to graduate from a 4 year college, I do not have a criminal record, the only thing that worries me is that I have been using a fake Social Security and a resident ID for the last 10 yrs. Can this be a problem for me if I try to apply for Deferred Action? I have been paying taxes for the last 10 years, not with the fake Social, I do it with my ITIN. What do you recommend?
Thank you.
-RJE
On the work app. it says to write all names you ever used and social security numbers you’ve ever used, do you think we should put down fake ones we made up to work?
-KRod
For Deferred Action/work permit benefits, there’s a requirement that asks for proof of economic necessity. I am currently a dependent on my parents because I don’t have any significant income source of my own and am still an FT student in college. How will I demonstrate economic necessity and will my parents’ income be factored into my own income for this purpose? I need some advice.
Thank you so much!
-Ling
Thank you so much for putting together the video series on Deferred Action. It’s great and really helps. Since you mentioned you were doing more, I was wondering if you can perhaps squeeze in a question of mine in the next video? I’m 26 and have been married to a U.S born Citizen for 5 years and we began the petition process years ago but it required me to leave the country and re-enter from my home land. It was not something I wanted to do as it required me to leave my 1 year old daughter, at the time, behind with no telling how long it would really take for me to get back if they even approved me at all (my husband would have also had to prove ‘hardship’ to get me back) so we pretty much just dropped all that and hoped for the Dream Act. If I do get approved for Deferred Action and while I have that lawful presence status, would we be able to restart my husband’s petition for me and get it going without me having to leave the country? Would Atlas DIY have any advice for me? I need all the help I can get as we don’t have the funds to speak to an attorney/lawyer.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. And for all the work that you do!
-Fluxi
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  • Working Off and On the Books

Hey Angy,
I have been at my job for four years now and since the beginning, I have been getting paid off the books. Currently, the store is undergoing new management. We recently held a meeting and as it turns out, we are now being required to have a social security number in order to get paid on the books. Of course, I am undocumented.
I actually told them that I don’t have a social and I was told to still fill out a W-4 and I-9 form, and that HR would give me a call. I’m confused. Why would I still need to fill these forms out? Are there loop holes to it that I’m unaware of? Should I just leave this job altogether or should I fill out the forms and see what happens after that? I don’t want to get myself into something that I don’t know. Help! =(
Janet
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  • Driving Without a License Complication

Hey Angy,
I have been following your blog and the DreamActivist website for some time. My story is the same as yours and everyone elses. I came here at the tender age of one from Guatemala. I beat all the odds and graduated High School with all the honors and achievements possible but my status prevented me from going further. I have been very lucky on one end. I have amazing parents who always worked and provided for us. My dad was very blessed to have a high powered very good paying job. He could provide for my family which includes my mom, my three sisters and I. But like millions of others, his license expired and he could not renew it. His job depended on him being able to drive.
We aren’t the type of people to sit back and wait. We are hard workers. My dad started his own little business and finds jobs in the same fields he worked in before but now as a contractor. He is not employed by anyone and doesn’t have to do all that E-verify junk. Which of course he wouldn’t pass because neither he, my mom, nor I have papers. He takes the risk every day driving around doing his job. Before it was easier because if he got a ticket all he had to do was pay it. In the last month several of the surrounding counties have passed the racists laws. If he gets stopped for even the most minor traffic violation, since he has no license, he automatically gets arrested and within the next few hours is transferred to the ICE detention center that is 2 hours away. It has literally become a man hunt here. Just yesterday we heard of a man who was pulled over on his way to work for driving 10 miles over the speed limit. He’s just like us; not licensed. By 5pm that same day he was in ICE custody. He left behind a 6 month pregnant wife and a 2 year old daughter both with no papers.
I am so scared for my dad. He has to work, my family needs him. But providing for our family has become a risk and I know that we are not the only ones in this situation. How do I handle this Angy? How are we supposed to avoid situations like these when this is what gets us from day to day?
MC
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  • Undocumented & Senior in High School

I’m turning 17 this year and I’m worried for the future. Immediately after the summer, I will be a senior in High School. Most teenagers by now would be excited that their last year of high school is approaching, but I’m only filled with worry. I think about getting a job or even going to college, and the obstacles I’ll face.
It’s not the children’s fault that they’re an illegal immigrants. I was brought to the United States when I was 5 and have been here almost 12 years. It would be hard to go back to the country I was born in, as I will not have full knowledge of how to speak the language and will not know anyone there. Right now, leaving the United States is not an option.
Many people hate the fact that Dream Act is an easy answer to give citizenship for illegal immigrants. However, I’m just a victim and it is cruel how people think we are the bad guys. Illegal immigrants may not pay taxes directly to the state, but we do contribute by buying and working here.
Is there any way for me to get a green card or anything? I really hope the Dream Act passes soon for the sake of the dreams that haven’t been accomplished yet.
Best,
Anonymous
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  • Why Is It Empowering To Come Out?

Hi Angy, my name’s Ali. I too am undocumented. I found out about you and the New York State Youth Leadership Council through tumblr, and just clicking around. I have to admit I can’t believe I actually stuck around to click around and read the stuff under the #undocumented tag, since I usually can’t take it and start tearing up right away. Lame right? I know. What stood out to me about your video was how truly unapologetic you and the other 2 people in the video seemed to be…happy and completely okay with your status. I simply am not. I am not ashamed of being undocumented and I never have been but, I never think of “coming out” about it. I don’t think that should define me.
I would love to be enlightened by you, how is it empowering for you to come out this way? I see the part that if we share our stories it will provide insight to what we’re living through. But I just don’t know, I still don’t seem to understand. Anyway, I’m so proud that strong people like yourself are out there to set the example. Maybe you can provide me with contact information of how I too can take action, I live in Long Beach, CA. I’m currently working with a non-profit organization that empowers and honors Latinas; however, not much focus is put into people like myself that are AB-540 students. If you could provide me with information that would really awesome =] thanx and have a good day Angy. Thanx for being a great example.
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  • Lost In school

Dear Angy,
I am a student in California at UCLA and my biggest problem is that I always feel lost in such a big school. Most of all I feel like people here are so much smarter and it’s easy for me to feel like I don’t belong, let alone my status makes it that much harder to feel welcomed…any advice?
Thanks,
Lupe
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  • Continuing My Education

Hello Angy,
I am part of the Dream Act group on facebook. I will be graduating soon from Community College and I was wondering about four year colleges in New York City (I saw you are attending CUNY) anyway money is an issue. Do you have any suggestions?
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  • Does A Social Keep Me Safe?

Dear Angy,
I am an 18 year old living in New Jersey. With Christie as our governor, there is no way the Dream Act is going to pass. I go off to college in less than a year, and I am really worried as to the limitations on my opportunities. For one, what do I label myself when filling out an application? I have an expired visa but I don’t have a social security number. And my family and I do file for taxes each year, and I have a job at Staples. That confuses me even more. Does having a social security number secure me?
Thank you! –Jen
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  • Papers. Marriage. Love

Hello. I’m Adriana, 25, I live in Long Island and I’m undocumented. Graduated from the University about 2 years ago and now I’m working as a baby sitter.
I’m writing you regarding that video about dating. From my experience, it’s really hard! I dated this guy for 5 years, I’m sure he knew my status but we never discussed it. It was hard because for some reason sometimes I felt like if I was less than him, like if I was ashamed of my status. I think I also avoided the subject because I didn’t want him to believe that I was with him just for the papers (you know the whole marriage thing).
We had plans to get marry and blah blah but we broke up 2 years ago because he wanted to take a break.
Recently, we started talking again, we went on a couple of dates, and it looks like we might have a chance again. Things are going well. But my question is how do I deal with the subject? I know I have to be open about it but it’s so hard to not feel ashamed about it.
Anyways, I’m sorry about the rant, and good job in the video.
Adriana
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  • Flying While Undocumented

Angy,
I am from Pennsylvania and I really want to fly out to California soon but I am undocumented. Is it okay for me to fly? What is the process or what should I do?
Thanks,
Namin
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  • Happy Birthday Ask Angy

This past year has been one of the most rewarding and special ones I have ever lived. I was able to meet so many youth both in person and through cyber space. I didn’t’ think this column would be where it is now. I never imagined people would read it or actually like it.
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  • I Need To Do Something I Can’t Wait Anymore

Hi Angy,
My name is Cesar and I am illegal, well I guess that part is obvious, haha. I’m 18, been in NYC for 10 years, luckily been able to go to college and finish my first year. I got into the Macaulay Honors program at Lehman, which I hope all students in our situation know about and apply to. My sister was unlucky as she came here when she was older and had to work and pay her way through college. Basically, I haven’t really been involved much in the fight for the DREAM Act or anything else, which I’m angry at myself for. I’ve been stuck waiting for things to just happen, but I’ve realized that I need to do something for them to happen I can’t just wait anymore. I want to start getting involved in the NYSYLC and what it does and work towards improvement for all of us.
Let me know what I should do next,
Cesar
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  • Stay or Leave

My name is Sam and I am 28 years old. I am a college graduate and I am a DREAMer as everybody else in here. The recent failure to pass the federal Dream Act has made me realize that even though I love the U.S. Maybe I am not destined to be here.
I have tried everything I can to live a good life post college. However, it seems that every time I receive a good job offer my immigration status fails to impede my progress. I decided to switch careers to become an ESL teacher. I have been looking for jobs abroad and have been teaching ESL online. It’s not a glamorous job nor is it financially fulfilling.
I read about the New York Dream Act and I had some high hopes. I was just wondering if you have the time estimates on when the bill will likely pass or fail. I know it seems selfish to ask the government to rush it. However, I am not getting any younger and my dream to have an actual career post college and not a job should not be limited to just the U.S.
I know that it needs to assigned to a committee and then likely discussed in the assembly. I just want to know if Sen. Perkins discusses a timeline with your organization about the Act and what we should do in the meantime.
So what advice would you be able to give me? I am hoping that the New York Dream Act would be voted on this year since it’s more likely to pass rather than the Federal one. I have four younger brothers, me being the oldest, and I feel responsible for helping my parents take care of them. Does your group offer job placement assistance? I have an offer to teach in China but it’s for peanuts to be honest because of my nationality. But being jobless at 28 and a college graduate makes me feel inadequate.
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  • Living With Strangers

Dear Angy,
I’m a queer undocumented youth. I just found out that my father is queer and my mother is in the closet about it.
Apparently, he had a year long affair with a man before I was even born. He came back to my mom, begging and pleading because he wanted to be a “family man.” But since then, he has had other dalliances. My parents are still married.
My mom didn’t bother to tell me this till this past weekend and only because she didn’t want me to cuss her out after her death. But she doesn’t really want to talk or do anything about it.
I’ve had a dysfunctional family unit in my house since we came to this country 12 years ago. My parents are legal residents who live in the same house but they barely talk to each other and when they do, they are always fighting. I always thought that my gayness or lack of legal status was a cause for the tension in the home. My father used to beat me up and disowned me at 16 for being gay after school counselors discovered the abuse and called the cops on him. But it was my mom that tried to defend or protect me from the abuse and she is the only one who supports me. My father and I don’t have a relationship — we’ve barely spoken two words to each other since I was 16. I am almost 27 now.
I asked my sister to confirm certain facts and all she could say was “I thought you knew.”
What am I supposed to do? I can fix the problems in my house while I’m here for the summer but I also feel very angry, hurt and betrayed. My mom says she loves me despite my defective genes, which I also find offensive. My father’s sexual orientation would only be my mother’s business, but at the point where he turned all his anger, sexual repression and hurt towards me as a teenager, I feel extremely let down by my entire family. I’m also in removal proceedings.
What do you suggest I do?
Prerna
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  • Same Skin Color of Opposition

Hey Angy, hope all is well. I’m a student from Arizona and I can’t begin to say how inspired, touched, and amazed I am at how this movement has gone through the country.
I was born here and only until recently, with all the awesome awareness that you beautiful people have committed, have I begun to become conscious of this immigration struggle. I was always involved with various organizations, volunteering with various causes and what struck me so passionately about the Dream Act was that it was something that was so hidden…or something that I suppose wasn’t of urgent issue, well obviously I wrong.
I’ve become involved on my school campus, joining the organization that advocates for the Dream Act and undocumented rights. However, I can’t help but feel out of place, besides the fact that the majority of them are undocumented. I feel a bit of guilt and shame sometimes. I do carry various privileges – that I see as blessings – but I help out every way I can. I’m genuinely down for this cause, but sometimes I catch some people looking at me with this face like, “what are you doing here”. The other day, we needed to go pick up some flyers and a banner across town, I volunteered to pay most for it and pick it up too; this one undocumented girl gave me a smirk with a concrete hint of annoyance.
It doesn’t happen too often, but at random times, it hits me and I think, “do they despise me?’ I know I may remind them of the same person who happens to have the same color of skin, speaks a certain way, the person that’s at the forefront of the opposition.
I’m always involved, I’m there for them 100%, so why do I get the (albeit very few) drops of disapproval? I’m not entitled to anything from them, I do what I can and stay out of their way, because I know it’s about letting them be heard. I know I should be the last person to feel like they’ve been victimized, but can a white person even be involved in a cause like this?
I don’t know, maybe its all in my head, but it just bothers me. I’d appreciate any advice or insight, thank you for all you do and to all those Dreamers out there, keep ya head up!
– Steward
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  • Falling For Her

Angy,
My name is Jorge Ocampo and I’m 22 years old. I live in Southern California in the city of Los Angeles. I am writing to you because I feel like we’re on the same page. I would like to get some advice from you in regards to what I should do to help myself and not stress about this anymore. My friends can’t even relate to this or understand what I’m trying to do. I don’t want to feel like I’m wasting my time because I know deep down in my heart I’m not. Okay so here it goes.
I met this wonderful person two months ago who felt lost and confused in the world. I didn’t know what was wrong with her. Later on she told me that she’s an undocumented immigrant. It’s hard for her to tell somebody about her personal life and I respect that. The day she told me this, she was so frustrated and felt like a piece of trash. You’ve mentioned before that having a diploma can feel like it’s just a paper and I remember her saying that too. I did as much as possible to make her understand that there are so many ways to get a job, get scholarships, a car and dream big. But she said that I don’t understand that nobody understands her.
I told her to get married with someone and there you go, you’ll get papers and now you’ll be able to dream big. I asked her if she wanted me to help her and when she asked how, I told her to marry me. She didn’t think of that possibility before, it’s the simplest way, right? The process might take time but after all that everything will be okay. So I offered my life, time and everything for this woman who I truly admire but she doesn’t know. Here is where I feel is the beginning of the story of us.
After asking her to marry me she told me with a straight face, “I don’t want any emotional attachments whatsoever” and I respected that so I moved on. Later on I found out that she liked another guy which bothered me, I’m not going to lie, but I didn’t let it show.
We have been texting and getting to know each other here and there. We met up and talked about each other’s lives, we’re both really busy now. She’s trying to look for a job and I’m going to school full-time plus work. It’s really stressful for both of us but especially for her because she can’t really do much. I can just picture myself without papers and how life would be, it seems so hard.
Having known her now makes me feel so dumb for not knowing her earlier. I feel complete with her. We both have goals we want to accomplish and she wants to do so many things that I feel like I need to be top of all my things or she’ll lose interest in me. She’s a big time feminist but old-fashioned at the same time. She’s not the kind of woman who will cook for a man, nor would she take their bullsh*t. She doesn’t like poetry; she thinks it’s cheesy. She loves tattoos and she is the weirdest woman I’ve ever met. She keeps me wondering everyday and I’m always learning new things about her. She is really shy, mysterious, smart and cautious about a lot of things. I don’t want to get hurt in the end if I do this for her as friend. I feel like I’m falling for her. She has a huge heart and wants to do a lot in life. It’s only been a few months and already she’s driving me crazy, in a good way.
I think I like “la mala vida” which means tough love in Spanish. The way she is, hard to get, is something I’ve always wanted from a girl. But she doesn’t know how I truly feel and I feel like I’m not myself anymore like if I have to act a certain way around her. I know she’s changing me for the better by providing me with feedback or pushing me to better myself like getting a better job or how to talk to others properly. Knowing somebody as smart as her makes me feel like a better individual. I thought you could help me. All I’m asking if this is worth it?
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  • Starting Somewhere

Hi Angy,
Call me Erika. I was reading about the New York DREAM Act and hearing about it puts a smile on my face. Knowing that more and more states are realizing the potential that illegal immigrant students have amazes me.
I live in New Jersey and came to the United States when I was 1.5 months old. My mom had many chances of becoming legal and having me become legal as well, but her pride got the best of her. Till this day I’m still stuck in the shadows.
I recently turned 18, now I want to start doing things on my own. I find it horrible that people would be against illegal young children and adolescents, it makes no sense they were practically raised here! Take me as an example, my first medical records EVER and all my shots are from HERE!
I want to continue school and work with animals; that’s my passion. I would like to know if there is ANYTHING I can do to help or get myself involved in this and I’m thinking about moving to New York because in Middlesex County College they treat illegal immigrants like trash which is why I haven’t even applied to school here and my dad wants me to. I refuse. I know there are schools out there willing to help me, so why should I go to a school that will make my life hell?
Please let me know if there is ANYTHING I could do would you please let me know? What colleges would you recommend for me?
From a faithful supporter.
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  • Owning Your Life Back

Angy, thank you for inspiring me about not being afraid just because I’m undocumented in this country. It was really hard for me because after I finished high school, I wanted to go to college but I wasn’t able to do it because of my status. I felt so sad but I always keep going and never stop. My mom always says, ” make the best of the worst situations” and that’s something I always think about when I feel sad. Now I’m not afraid of tell anyone of my status. No one will ever make me feel different just cause I don’t have a social security number. I’m not the only one in this country without papers. I been through a lot in the last 2 years and I just know I have to go to college to pursue a career. I want to be a role model for my little sister. I want to let everybody know that I won’t stop until I get what I want.
Jose
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  • Disappointment Turning Into Strength

Angy,
I’m so disappointed… my sister and I were counting on the dream act bill to pass like thousand and thousands of students like us! It’s not fair! But we will continue to act and call! I am 100% sure that this will pass and one day we will be able to tell our kids and grand-kids how proud we are to have been part of this very important battle for the future of so many young dreamers like myself and my sister. Just like in the past many other battles were conquered to ensure freedom and equality of rights. We deserve to be recognized in our communities because we form them too! Anyway, who are they to judge? Everybody in this country comes from an immigrant family who came here many years ago looking for the same thing our families came here for.
They will realize they made a big mistake because we are the future of this country.
Paula
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  • Moving Forward

Hey Angy,
My name is Jose and I live in Alabama. I’m having a hard time with depression here. It’s so hard to get into any college and almost none of my friends know i’m undocumented. Can you help?
Thanks,
Jose
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  • Helping The Cause

Hi!
My name is Stephanie Gonzalez. I am 17 years old and a junior in high school. I am undocumented. Let me know what I can do to help support our cause! (:
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  • Criteria To Be A Mom

Hi Angy,
My fiancé and I want to have kids in a couple of years, but when I sit down by myself and think about the reality of things it makes it really difficult to imagine such a life. Being undocumented really takes a toll on me at times. I think about all the things I could be doing, if it wasn’t for my status. I feel like I must take care of my parents, but how can I do this when I’m only limited to a certain level of success and income?
I always wanted to have kids, and still want to but it just seems very selfish of me to have kids when I won’t even be able to take care of them the way I would want to. I grew up feeling sorry and guilty for my father, he had to work 3 jobs in order to support us. I’m afraid to do the same thing to my kids. I want them to feel proud and happy of who I am. How can I do that when I don’t even feel proud of myself? How can I move forward with my life when I just feel…. stuck?
Thank you,
Mia
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  • Pity, or Insults, For The Paperless Cat

Hi Angy,
I noticed you’re really good with listening to people who need to
vent, and well I really need someone to talk to right now…
My name is Catalina and I am a Dreamer currently in my second year of college. I had a terrible day in school because they were not letting me register for next semester. This is because I have a balance pending. I told them that I will pay is just that I need time to do it… And that is when they started asking me about taking out loans…I told them I could not. They just kept on pushing until I finally told them I couldn’t because I am undocumented.
Then it all changed. These people started going on and on about how bad they felt for me. They said they were sorry because I was wasting my time going to school, knowing that my diploma was going to be worthless after I graduated. This just got me very upset and even know I did not do it in front of them, I just cried, because I feel there is some truth to this.
What is the point of me trying so hard to make it through college when my diploma is not even going to be worth it?
I am just terribly upset. Thank you,
-Cat
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  • Underrepresented Dreamer

To Angy and all the brave youth out there who have emailed their problems…you all have inspired me to come out in this simple way. Thank you.
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  • Love For My Partner or My Country

My name is Michelle, I was just told about your foundation from a co-worker. I was looking through your website and I am very interested in bringing in my life partner who is Undocumented. She has been in this country since she was 7, she is now 24 years old. She has completed high school and really wants to go to college. She went for a semester for Business Management and had to drop out due to payment issues with her tuition. It was too much for her family to handle. I offer what I can to her but I am the only person helping myself out.
She is at the moment going through immigration court to fight for her status as there can be a slight chance of her getting deported her application kept getting denied back in 2008 and 2009. She has been arrested but not convicted 4 times. She has never been in jail and all of these arrests have been dismissed. On November 26, 2010 ICE came to our door at 5am to try to take her. They didn’t. They just gave her a paper giving her a court date. Why did they come to our home? No letter, No word. Just that they received a phone call from someone who doesn’t like her that is why they came to “investigate”. At this moment her and her family feels violated and scared. We just had her first court date and they told us to wait because they were not ready to prosecute her case. More Waiting…..
It has been a real struggle for the both of us for the past 6 years. We are living with her parents right now they just received their green cards. At this point she wants to make something for herself, because of this situation she has not been able to tap the full potential I know she has. I am actually an American Citizen. I was luckily to be born here. Not a day passes by where I wish I could just give her my name and date of birth so she can flourish. She has been so depressed and frustrated the past year I want to help her see it’s not the end for her or us. What If she has to leave the state? How will we be together? There are times I wish we could marry but I know this country is a long way from federally accepting this. I feel like we are stuck and can not get out of it because of the complexity of it. She has made mistakes and was at the wrong time and wrong place.
We want to have a family and home together. We have been engaged for almost two years. If we don’t get support from somewhere I don’t think a wedding will be possible. She feels like she isn’t enough to be my bride.
Please advise me what should we do? How do we face these challenges ahead? What can she do so she can at least go to school?
Thank you,
Michelle L.
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  • To Wed or Not To Wed

Angy,
I am not undocumented myself, however my boyfriend is. We go through the struggles together. He graduated college in December, after working hard for four and a half years his diploma is nothing but a piece of paper. His friends are out starting their lives and he is ashamed to be working a minimum wage job six, sometimes seven days a week, just to cover bills. When the Dream Act did not pass, we were both devastated. He has given up hope; however, I am still 110% hopeful. I know that the situation is a lot harder on him and I could never fathom what he is going through, but it still affects me greatly.
There is a constant worry if he doesn’t text me back when he’s out; I can’t help but think he got pulled over. Now that Indiana is trying to put an Arizona type immigration law in affect, I am more worried than ever. He has an international driver’s license, so technically he can drive here, however he has gotten comments from a police officer investigating something at his work that “many illegals use that license.” When he goes to bars with his friends, they look at the ID like it is fake; and sometimes he is not even allowed to enter the bar because it isn’t a state issued ID card. But the real reason why I am writing to you is to discuss an issue that greatly involves myself. We have just hit our one year mark and the discussion of marriage has come up – however, not marriage for love, but more like marriage as a favor. We both have no doubts in our minds that we will be married in the future; however neither of us are ready. My boyfriend wants to get married, secretly, so I can help him get papers and become legalized. This would involve us continuing our relationship as it is: not living together, no white gown for me, but only a trip to the courthouse. As much as I love him, I feel it’s a huge sacrifice to make. Maybe I am being selfish, but this is not how I planned a marriage – fake.. Not only have these conversations come up more and more, but his parents asked him to ask me to do it as a favor. This all sounds so unromantic. I explained to him that, if he wants to get REAL married, I would be happy to commit a little earlier than planned. I want to help him. Seeing him suffer hurts me more than anything in the world. He deals with so much bullsh*t at work and at home that sometimes I think he will reach the breaking point and something terrible will happen. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyone to turn to and no one is in my shoes. My mom doesn’t take me seriously when I try to talk to her about it and my friends don’t truly know how it bothers me. I don’t know if you have any advice to give, or any insight to my situation. Anything would be so greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
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  • A New Me

Angy,
Why do you ask people to come out? Is it safe? How did you feel after coming out because if it’s still the same status there’s no point in doing it. Telling the anti immigrants you’re undocumented isn’t going to make them give you papers right away. I don’t get it.
Eric
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  • Especially During The Days When Everything Goes Bad

Angy, Thank you so much. I really appreciate reading your posts. Especially during the days when i feel like everything is going bad. I’m really sad that the dream act didn’t pass but i hope it passes next time. Thanks again
Sincerely,
Maria Marquez from Los Angeles CA
Wow Angy!!!! GOD bless you. I want to thank you for everything! I have a lot of great things to tell you that would fill this whole page. Thanks again for the super, super job you are doing! I love you!
Thank you, let me know how i can help!!!!! I also need the ,,,Dream Act..
I KNOW WE ARE GOING TO GET IT…AMEN.
Anonymous
Hi Angy, this is Antonio Medina, I am very angry and sad that the Dream Act didn’t pass and I want to give myself to whatever needs to be done next. When are you guys meeting next? What are your plans? I have some ideas that i like to share, but i would prefer to share them with just one or two people and not with a whole group to start. We have to keep the hope and work up and going. I will definitely try to go to the events that you guys have scheduled.
Take care,
Antonio M.
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  • …When You Feel Like Everything Is Going Against You

Angy,
Thank you for your blog posts, I have those kinds of dreams too.
It’s hard being undocumented, but I stop and think that there are others in the same struggle, with the same desperate feelings.
I could relate to your dream, I’ve dreamed so many times being stuck in a place and not being able to come back to the person I love, and to my life because of my status.
I feel so helpless. It’s as if all the good things I’ve ever done and my accomplishments have been in vain. I’m glad you were able to go to college, I wasn’t and still not in the position to go. Though I wish things could change. I was offered a scholarship and a car if I fixed my status. A fake marriage is the only option, and I hate lies. I’m in love with someone who is also undocumented; doing that would feel like cheating. We don’t choose who we are, or who we love, I just wish sometimes my life was as easy as regular people, going to school, getting married, having kids, and going on a vacation. Everything is a hassle.
I’m still giving it my best at everything I do. I was raised and taught to be nothing but the best, might consider myself a perfectionist at times (even though I hate it).
How do we cope with it, when you feel like everything is going against you?
Sincerely,
Me
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  • Don’t Need A Certificate

Angy,
Are you a certified mental health provider? Counselor? Therapist? To be giving advice. What gives you the right to be doing this when you haven’t had any training? What do you know about struggle when New York is a blue state?
ConcernedDreamer
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  • I’m Fearful And Concerned About My Future

Dear NYSYLC,
First of all I would like to thank you so much for all of your hard work over the past year. As an undocumented college student I really appreciate what you did in support of the DREAM Act. Although I currently go to school in New York City, I was never able to find the time to be a part of any of the events and protests that you organized throughout the year. I convinced myself that there was nothing I could do to help and that it would better for me to solely focus on my studies. I naively thought that in doing so I was protecting my future. But now the future that I have worked so hard to achieve is slowly falling apart.
Now that I am approaching my last semester in college I’m starting to feel fearful and concerned about my future. There are so many things I want to do in NYC before I apply to Grad school but my legal status is keeping me from even trying to accomplish them. The moment I realized this reality I started to experience a feeling of loneliness. There were times when I even thought that there was no one who could understand what I was going through. It was only after I talked to a former member of your organization that I realized that I’m not alone. I decided to contact you because I would like to be able to talk to other people who are also going through the same situation. I want to know what their plans are and if they know of any resources available for people like us. I think that we can only depend on each other to get through this difficult time in our lives.
If possible I would also like to help you in your fight for the DREAM Act. It is time for me to face my reality. I don’t want to sit around while my future and the futures of other people like me are in jeopardy. For this reason, I would like to join your organization and help you in your fight towards a better future for the millions of undocumented dreamers living in this country.
Once again thank you so much for all of your efforts,
Berenice
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  • Having The Right Support System

Thank you so much. I really appreciate reading your blog. Specially the days when i feel like it is all bad. I’m really sad that it didn’t pass but i hope it passes next time. Thanks again!
Sincerely,
Maria Marquez from Los Angeles CA
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  • What Do I Have Left?

I don’t even know how old I was when I was brought to NYC, I know I was very young. I lived with my mother and father until I was about 5 years old and then my little brother was born (American born). I spoke fluent Spanish and English and I loved school dearly at a young age. My older brother came here legally when he was 11 turning 12. We all moved to Jersey when I was about 6 turning 7years old. At that time I did not know we moved here because my father was growing sick. He died when I was seven…I went to elementary school and soon graduated high school. I found out I was undocumented when I was 16 years old. At that age I was a junior in high school, taking my HSPA and my SATs, and wondering to myself for what? I found out because during that time all my friends were becoming independent and getting jobs and getting driving permits. I wanted to be apart of that and finding out I couldn’t broke my heart. My senior year seemed to be the worst. I entered my first day of senior year with sadness and anger, with the knowledge that this would eventually be my last year of ever going to school. Knowing that the people I will soon graduate with will be going to college, getting their own apartments, cars. No one but my family knows my situation. It sucks being the child that wants to do the most but can’t do anything at all. My older brother who could of gone to college, didn’t instead he’s taking care of two kids with his girlfriend and is currently in debt struggling. My younger brother doesn’t even care about school, when I long for it. It’s hard to tell him that education is the key to success when I don’t even go to school. I can’t even be a positive example for him. (He doesn’t know my situation) I’m 20 years old now and I’ve accomplished nothing. When I know I have so much potential and will. What’s the point of having friends when all of them are in school taking finals hanging out in dorms or going to clubs, when I don’t even have a proper ID. Sooner or later they start asking why aren’t you in school, why don’t you have your driver’s license and why can’t you come with us on spring break. I have to come up with lies after lies that I have to force myself to remember, Too much work and it’s mentally draining. I rather be alone than lie to people I’ve grown to care about. So this past year I’ve distanced myself, I don’t go out and I barely talk to any one. I cry everyday at least once a day and I’ve recently been going to church to ask God for strength, so I don’t end up doing anything stupid. I know I’m not the only one with this problem but not being able to talk to anyone about it is extremely difficult. I try to have hope for the DREAM act but its so hard when so many people that oppose it are the ones deciding its fate. If it doesn’t pass what do I have left?? What can I do?
-Anonymous 
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  • 41 Reasons

My name is Neidy Ortiz and I’m a 21 year old Dreamer. My father brought me to this country when I was 13yrs old and was here where I finished my middle school and high-school. I was always an excellent student, honor roll and medals were part of those years. When I was in high-school I was accepted to a business academy within the school where I won 2nd place in a huge competition of business students for my school. Those are my most memorable memories from school. I graduated from high-school in ’08, and since then I haven’t seen the inside of a classroom. I wanted and still want to study international business and exterior commerce but as an “illegal immigrant” I didn’t have access to any kind of help from the government, loans, financial aid, etc. I’ve been working since I was 14, and haven’t been back to my country or seen my family and my mom since then. My life right now is a little complicated and the Dream Act was my last hope. You guys did an amazing job! I’m really considering the idea of going back to Colombia for good since I can’t come back anyways. I want to study and achieve the goals that were once set on my mind. But before I wanted to share this with you; I’m proud of what you guys did this year, I wish I would’ve known about this movement before so I could have been a part of it, but from what I’ve seen on your Facebook page the work done was excellent. God bless you! And hopefully one day, this country will understand that you guys are their future.!
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  • The Dream Act “Kids” Never Give Up

My name is Frank. I was born in Guayaquil, Ecuador. My father left my family and i to come to the united states in search of a better life when I was a couple months old. I lived with my mom and sisters until I was 7. At the age of 7 I got on a plane and a couple of hours later I was at LaGuardia airport where I was picked up by my father. It was the first time I had really met him and tears of both joy and sadness ran down my cheeks. I was now with my father but my mother decided to stay in Ecuador with my 2 other sisters. I lived a normal childhood in New York. I attended public school and went on to middle school. When I was in high school and asked my father to come with me to the DMV to get my drivers permit he told me I could not. He explained everything to me, I could not drive, I could not work, I could not do all the things a normal american teenager could do. I graduated from Francis Lewis High School in 2009. After high school I tried to join the army but the recruiter told me once again I could not join. So I went on to college in the fall paying a higher tuition simply because I could not get financial aid. Now I await the senate’s decision hoping that they will make the right choice, to pass the dream act which will help not only me but it will also help the thousands of students in the united states of america working hard to make something of themselves.
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  • ..First We Need To Get The Bill Passed!

Hi Angy.
In case the Dream Act passes at the Lame Duck session, when would it become a law?
The 5 year requirement is a problem for a lot of people, and the person I know is just 6 months shy of the 5 year requirement.
Thanks
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  • I Graduated Salutatorian Of My 2010 Class But..

Dear Angy,
Currently I am stuck at home, not attending college or working. I feel like I’m going crazy, I don’t know what to do. Florida is a really hard state to attend college when you are undocumented. My high school counselor wasn’t of much help since she was clueless about my situation too. I’m in a Family petition through my aunt but that takes over 5 years and that is way too much time for me to wait. What I tell my friends about me not attending college right now is that I’m “taking a year off”. But once next year begins, reality is going to kick me in the butt. I need help, I HAVE to continue studying here in Florida, or anywhere else where they accept me. I’m truly lost and don’t know where I can or can’t apply. (I applied during my senior year to 4 colleges as an international student and was accepted, but of course I had no way of paying) Getting accepted is not really a problem, I graduated Salutatorian of my 2010 class; the problem is paying and finding scholarships or grants for me. Please help, any advice/help would be really appreciated.
-K.
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  • Living Undocumented Is Not Humane

Angy,
I am undocumented, living in New York and about to graduate high school in 2011. I’m kind of worried, scared and can’t help wonder “what now?” I’m tired of my life being decided for me because of my status. it’s almost the end of the year and I don’t know what will become of me if the dream act doesn’t pass because my future is so uncertain. What can I do to help now that elections have passed? What’s the plan for the remaining months and how can I be involved?
Sincerely,
Anonymous
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  • I Can’t Figure Out Who I Am

Dear Angy,
I am South American and I was raised here; however, I don’t know what to label myself because I’m undocumented. I don’t feel like I belong here or in South America either. I don’t consider myself American and it frustrates me because I feel like being raised here gives me that right. Also, if I don’t consider myself South American I feel like I’ll be a disgrace to my parents and a sell out as well. What do you consider yourself? What am I suppose to do? I can’t really figure out WHO I AM.
Sincerely,
Anonymous”
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  • I Want To Fight But..

Angy, I’m kind of shy but I really admire everything the NYSYLC does. I read the updates and events but i’m scared of going to a meeting. I don’t know anyone there and I’ll feel awkward. I really want to be in this fight but I don’t want to come off as a creepy stalker. I don’t think i can be of much help. I don’t know what to do.
Sincerely, Confused&Shy
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  • Why Do I Keep Fighting?

Today a member of the NYSYLC asked me, “Angy, why do you keep going?”
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