Documents I have…
*British Birth Certificate
*Wedding License
*My Child’s Birth certificate.
My parents brought me to the states when I was 5 years old. My father was arrested and deported back to England for domestic violence when I was about 8 years old.
I grew up thinking I was an American citizen. When I was in highschool I was required to take a PET (Pre Employment Training) class, part of the class required my SSN. Being a child of only 17 almost 18, I had no idea what a SSN even WAS! I lived in a small town with no desire to learn how to drive yet or a reason too. Julia was working two jobs at the time the school was wanting this, so it was difficult to get in touch with her to sort this out. She had told me to tell the school BHS, that I don’t have one because I was born in England. I still remember the nonchalant manner she informed me of this. I didn’t think much of it at the time.
The school thought I was nuts! I didn’t understand why. I had no reason to question my mother. Well, as it turns out the school asked me to leave. I was suddenly “a liability for them” since I was turning 18 and soon to be considered an adult.
I left with the intention of getting my GED and moving on to collage. I had already picked my courses and planned my life out. Surprise! No SSN or government issued ID, no GED… no GED no collage.
Around this same time I had met Arthur. My first partner. I had moved in with him around the same time Julia moved to Virginia. He had tried to help me get my immigration adjustment started as well as setting up a drivers licence/photo ID. We knew so little back then. In fact we were just talking about that last week, haha. Catch 22′s and dead ends seemed to be everywhere from the very begging. Still I had my love and my pets that I wasn’t willing to give up, let alone my friends.
Needless to say, Arthur and I didn’t work out. 5 years into the relationship and we were ready to move on.
Then I met Justin, my husband. We planned on being in a long term relationship regardless. So we planed on getting an I-130. He came with me to file for it and we were told we should wait for the FOIA to show how I came into the states. I am still waiting for it.
My husband lost his mind and started abusing me when I got pregnant. I had no choice but to file a restraining order. When I told my immigration attorney what had happened and why I can’t pay for the fees anymore, I was dropped because when Justin came to one of my meetings it caused “a conflict of interest”.
Now I have a child, can’t work, can’t rent. I had to move in with a man I don’t even like. He is forcing me to be in a relationship with him since I can’t be I=independent, but it is clean and safe for my child. I am so unhappy and I keep reaching out. I am alone and help doesn’t exist. No one understands, worst of all yesterday I passed a newspaper USA Today. On the front page it stated, “now it will be even MORE difficult for illegal aliens to establish themselves”.
I would love to be independent and not HAVE to be with a man.
~L~


